1. Not enough information or lack of clarity to make a good decision.
What is the decision that needs to be made here?
Focus on the Intention – what is the purpose to be achieved from this decision?
Identify possible options from there.
Am I the right person to make this decision?
What information do I need? Is there more information I require before I am in a position to make a decision. Does someone else need to decide something else first?
Practice trust in your intuition, your gut feeling with smaller decisions so that you can then become more comfortable with using your intuition with larger decisions.
Practice trust in the process of life. Be willing to acknowledge there will be decisions that can’t be made now – there will be steps that you need to take which you are unaware of right now, yet also know that these will reveal themselves as you move further along your journey. Hold the intention of the final result in your mind, keep asking “What decisions do I need to make today?” and step by step you will find yourself becoming less fearful with the decision making process as you get closer to the result you are working towards.
2. Limiting beliefsand negative self talk.
Become aware of the story you tell yourself about making decisions e.g. I always get them wrong; I’m hopeless at making decisions. Create an affirmation to counteract the negative self talk – I’m a great decision maker. I can make decisions confidently and with ease. I love to make decisions!
Become curious with a key question… How can I allow this to become easier? How can I enjoy making decisions on this project?
Then create some space to listen for the answers …
3. Feeling rushed or pressured.
Create some space when you feel the pressure to make a decision – go for a quick walk round the block to clear your head and get fresh air, or postpone the decision until the next morning. I have a personal rule if the decision is not 100% clear for me immediately to wait 24 hours. After putting the decision on the back burner and having a good nights sleep I often know exactly what it is I need to do.
4. Fearof success, failure, rejection.
It is hard to make a decision when we worry about what other people think.
Accept it is OK to make mistakes – that is how we learn.
You can also give yourself permission to change your mind if it is possible – sometimes we need to try something out before we can confidently know if it was the right decision or not.
Learn to trust that the decision you make, even thought it may appear wrong, may in fact lead to the perfect solution further on. New and innovative ideas often come from mistakes!
Sometimes we may know what we want to do; we have made the decision in our heads however our fear of saying it can make us feel indecisive. Practice asserting your thoughts and opinions in relation to decisions, be prepared to say NO and learn how to handle others response when they are upset with what you have decided!
“Successful people live well, laugh often, and love much. They’ve filled a niche and accomplished tasks so as to leave the world better than they found it, while looking for the best in others and giving the best they have.”
An Emerson quote taken from A Year by the Sea written by Joan Anderson
When you want to create change in your life it is not a good idea to start from a place of neediness or dissatisfaction.
This would seem to be a contradiction in terms when setting goals, however, along with setting your goal there must also be a level of acceptance for where you are right now. It can be very hard to come to terms with where you are now when it is causing you a lot of pain and consequently it is this part of creating change that people struggle with the most. This is where having the support of someone, such as a coach, who understands the process of creating change is really important.
It is how you handle the present moment that will dictate how difficult or easy it will be for you to create the change you desire and ultimately the success you are looking for in life.
Eckhart Tolle, author of A New Earth, suggests a great question to ask yourself regularly…” What is my relationship with the present moment?”
Give it a try – and when you discover any resistance to the present moment contact Heather to talk about how coaching can help eliminate this block.
That little voice in our heads has so much to answer for in our lives, so it makes sense to take the time to listen, to hear if it is supporting us or if it is giving us a reason to make ourselves wrong.
For some reason the human tendency is to beat ourselves up – to find fault in what we are doing in life, it seems to be the automatic default button that kicks in especially when we are feeling low. When we have been burning the candle at both ends by working extremely long hours, when we are feeling overwhelmed by a huge list of things we want to accomplish, or when we are feeling unwell this little voice will kick into action and make us feel even worse.
So my challenge today is to consider –
What would happen if you choose to turn that little voice off?
What would happen if you chose to make yourself right today?
What would you choose to do today with the time that you have available?
What are the most important activities you could do today that will nurture you and give you a feeling of success right now, today?
Circle the numbers beside each statement below that come closest to representing how true the statements are for you with 1 being less true and 5 being more true. Then, score yourself, using the key at the bottom of the page. This test will help you determine how ready you are to be coached right now.
I have some big goals I want to achieve and I don’t know how. 1 2 3 4 5
I am willing to redesign how I spend my time. 1 2 3 4 5
I am ready to take action immediately on any commitments I make. 1 2 3 4 5
I am ready to break through any barriers to achieve success in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
I am willing to experiment with different ways of doing things. 1 2 3 4 5
I am willing to be open and speak the truth to my coach. 1 2 3 4 5
I am ready to examine my thoughts and beliefs. 1 2 3 4 5
I am willing to eliminate things I am tolerating in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
I am willing to change self-defeating behaviors that limit success. 1 2 3 4 5
I am ready to invest in myself to get the results I want in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
I am committed to my own personal growth so I can be successful in business. 1 2 3 4 5
10 – 20 Not ready for coaching right now.
21 – 40 Could be ready for coaching, email Heather to arrange a time to discuss your results and explore the benefits of coaching further.
41 – 55 Definitely ready for coaching; email Heather nowto arrange your first appointment to get started.
I have been journaling for many years now and find it an invaluable tool for my own personal growth and development.
I use it in many ways at different times…
I record any new awareness and insights that I have as a result of any courses, books or coaching that I am currently working with.
I record observations from my day – especially synchronistic events.
I have used it as a place to record those things I am grateful for at the end of the day. This has been particularly useful at times when I have felt discouraged or down.
I have also used it at times when I have felt miserable or sorry for myself to focus my attention on those things that can lift me out of that place e.g. Today I enjoyed…, Today I have nurtured myself by…, Today at laughed at…, Today I challenged myself…, Today I had fun…, Tomorrow I am looking forward to …,
I use it to reflect on the actions I took during the day – what was the result and what did I learn, with the intention of listing at least one thing I learned that day.
I have used it to recognize my successes from the day.
I have used it to set my intentions for the next day
I have used it as a dumping ground when I need to clear my head and get clarity around what is most important for me to attend to at any moment.
Recently I have used my journal as a way to monitor things I want to change – I do a quick check in on how am I feeling emotionally, mentally or physically so I can flick back and see any patterns that could be affecting my ability to make the changes I want to make.
I use it as a place to remember things during the day – I always keep it with me in my bag.
Sometimes I have ended my day with a question around what I want to know or support I need. Often the answer will pop up within the next day or two.
I hope this inspires you and gives you some ideas on how you can use journaling in your life for growth and development too. Remember to use it in whatever way feels right and enjoyable for you. I have written something in my journal every day in the past, however recently I am much more relaxed about the process and pick it up when I feel I want to write or have something to say or explore. There is no right or wrong way about doing this – it is about using your journal in whatever way you need to at any given time.
Please share your thoughts about journaling below by clicking on the word “comments” – I would love to hear about other ways of using a journal and how his process has been of value to you.
More and more I am seeing the effects of striving for success on our health and well being. As entrepreneurs it is easy to get excited about what we are creating and to feel really energized. We get a buzz from the adrenaline rush, or feel totally in the flow, and just keep going and going until the energy runs out. Then we can experience that physical and sometimes, mental, exhaustion that can hit us, stopping us in our tracks.
Our bodies will often send us the very clear message through illness or injury that it is time to rest. It can then take even more energy to get motivated again, which is a real challenge when there are no reserves left, and in the process- we lose our productivity for days, weeks or even longer in extreme cases. How successful do you feel when you find yourself in this place? Wouldn’t it be a lot easier if we could learn how to manage the whole energy process more effectively.
This is the part of my business that I am passionate about – creating awareness of the importance of our health and well being in achieving success in our lives and the consequences when we push ourselves to our limits continuously to achieve that success. The flip side of this is that when our energy levels are high and we are physically and mentally in optimum condition it is much easier to feel motivated and be productive achieving lots in any given day.
I will be speaking at the Hutt Valley Women in Business on Tuesday 10 March on this very topic (for further info contact Hutt Valley Chamber of Commerce, Phone 939 9821) and will be giving some pointers around managing our energy and motivation levels when striving towards to success. If you know of any other groups that may be interested in hearing about this topic please let me know. And if you need coaching around creating optimum health and well being for success please get in touch – call / text 0212 406 535 or email Heather
As you may know my tag line has always been Inspiring Success, Health and Well being. Because of my background of being self employed for nearly 20 years, including experience in owning a small business, I have mostly worked with small business owners creating structure , systems and routines to support the development of themselves and their businesses. So the focus has been very much on creating success within this environment.
Recently however I have been working with a few clients with major health issues from genetic illnesses to autoimmune diseases and depression. I am a great believer in having really great support as you challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone and deal with issues that are getting in the way of your success. I keep hearing that these clients are not finding value in support groups who meet with a focus on the illness and indeed the whole definition of what success looks like changes when faced with a health condition that completely reshapes your life.
So how do you handle it all?
These clients have expressed an interest in wanting to be around positive people who can see the person behind the illness, who recognize and encourage opportunities for learning, growth and understanding. So you can set the intention to build or connect with a community that will support you in this way.
There is a real need to learn to talk to ourselves in a positive and supportive way, to be kind and gentle with ourselves when dealing with illness. We tend to beat ourselves up for not being healthy, for not handling things as well as we used to – there is often a real lack of understanding or acceptance of the emotions that we all go through as we come to terms with new limitations. So start to notice how you’re talking to yourself and be willing to be more compassionate as you come to terms with the changes.
There are many beliefs that exist around various illnesses about what is and isn’t possible, that can get in the way of having a different experience, which could allow a person to transform their quality of life. Start to become aware of these beliefs and to really explore and challenge them. Are they really true and can you find examples of people who think differently about what is and isn’t possible?
The rules that society use to define success will also no longer apply. It will be the small steps, the little things that we can complete that give us satisfaction each day and the moments of peace that we experience in amongst the turmoil that will have more meaning. It takes time to adjust to this change in particular. So start today, exactly where you are right now and start to pay attention to the little things that matter rather than dismissing them too quickly as not good enough. You may be surprised to discover that the small things that you can contribute actually have so much more value to others than you might have once thought.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic and welcome comments to this blog to share you experiences. And if you need some extra support as you go through any changes with your life call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email email@example.com to arrange to time for a chat.
Having been self employed for most of my working life I have always felt that this time of the year is a great opportunity to start a fresh in business. The end of the financial year on the 31st March allows me to reflect on my successes, on the disappointments and on what got in the way of me achieving the goals I had set.
I work from a holistic point of view, believing that our satisfaction with our personal life will reflect on our business life, and vice versa. So there is always the reassessment of how my personal life is performing and how everything fits together for me at the same time.
Part of this process of closing off the last financial year is the physical clearing out of all the old receipts and paper work to be filed away, or to be dealt with by the accountant. I get a lot of satisfaction from clearing out clutter and completing these sorts of activities always increases my energy. And of course it creates the space for lots of new opportunities to come into my life.
How has your business performed over the last year? Are you satisfied or feeling disappointed?
How do you want it to be different this year?
Are you ready to do what it takes to make this happen?
Call/text 0212 406 535 or email me now on firstname.lastname@example.org to have a chat about how you would like this next financial year to be different and explore how I can support you.