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Looking for solutions – try a Key Question

A key question is a really useful tool that we can use to focus our minds on discovering potential solutions to a current challenge that we are facing. A good question will allow our unconscious mind to start working through our stored files and experiences to come up with an action step or resource that can help us achieve the outcome that we desire. Regular repetition of the question opens us up to unknown possibilities. Generally they are a “how” or “what” question… e.g. “What is the most important thing for me to do today?” or “How can I allow this project to become easy and enjoyable?” The first step to forming a good key question is to clearly identify what your desired outcome or intention is. Once we are clear on what it is we want, and can ask a great key question, it is amazing the answers that we discover. Check out some of my Questions for Reflection in this blog for ideas, give it a try and see how you get on. I’d love to hear what you learn.

4 reasons that make it difficult to make decisions and some solutions…

1. Not enough information or lack of clarity to make a good decision.

  • What is the decision that needs to be made here?
  • Focus on the Intention – what is the purpose to be achieved from this decision?
  • Identify possible options from there.
  • Am I the right person to make this decision?
  • What information do I need? Is there more information I require before I am in a position to make a decision. Does someone else need to decide something else first?
  • Practice trust in your intuition, your gut feeling with smaller decisions so that you can then become more comfortable with using your intuition with larger decisions.
  • Practice trust in the process of life. Be willing to acknowledge there will be decisions that can’t be made now – there will be steps that you need to take which you are unaware of right now, yet also know that these will reveal themselves as you move further along your journey. Hold the intention of the final result in your mind, keep asking “What decisions do I need to make today?”  and step by step you will find yourself becoming less fearful with the decision making process as you get closer to the result you are working towards.

2. Limiting beliefs and negative self talk. Become aware of the story you tell yourself about making decisions e.g. I always get them wrong; I’m hopeless at making decisions.  Create an affirmation to counteract the negative self talk – I’m a great decision maker. I can make decisions confidently and with ease. I love to make decisions! Become curious with a key question… How can I allow this to become easier? How can I enjoy making decisions on this project? Then create some space to listen for the answers …

3. Feeling rushed or pressured. Create some space when you feel the pressure to make a decision – go for a quick walk round the block to clear your head and get fresh air, or postpone the decision until the next morning. I have a personal rule if the decision is not 100% clear for me immediately to wait 24 hours. After putting the decision on the back burner and having a good nights sleep I often know exactly what it is I need to do.

4. Fear of success, failure, rejection. It is hard to make a decision when we worry about what other people think.

  • Accept it is OK to make mistakes – that is how we learn.
  • You can also give yourself permission to change your mind if it is possible  – sometimes we need to try something out before we can confidently know if it was the right decision or not.
  • Learn to trust that the decision you make, even thought it may appear wrong, may in fact lead to the perfect solution further on. New and innovative ideas often come from mistakes!
  • Sometimes we may know what we want to do; we have made the decision in our heads however our fear of saying it can make us feel indecisive. Practice asserting your thoughts and opinions in relation to decisions, be prepared to say NO and learn how to handle others response when they are upset with what you have decided!