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Some simple guidelines for living

  • Discover your passion and follow it
  • Assume you have a purpose in life, even though you may have no idea what it is!
  • Simplify your life
  • Create environments that support you
  • Practice extreme self care
  • Read inspirational books and listen to inspirational recordings or music
  • Hang out with people who inspire and uplift you

Time for Reflection

The key take away from this call on Fri 2ndDec was that there is more than one way to approach life – it is more important that we all find a way to live our lives that feels authentic for us rather than trying to fit into someone else’s formula. Only then can we experience the peace and contentment that we desire. Here are some of the learning’s from the call…

  • I am a huge fan of journaling as a tool to clear my head; however a verbal process may work better for others, so become aware of the “shoulds” you experience even around this topic of taking time for reflection and choose to do it in a way that works for you!
  • The process of reflection for the year reminds me of how far I have come, of all that I have learned and accomplished. This can be particularly inspiring, generating energy and excitement to propel us into a wonderful new year.
  • Remember to celebrate your achievements. Create simple rituals with a partner or loved ones to acknowledge and share all that has been meaningful in your life each year. It is these special moments that will be remembered by all in years to come. Also remember that you don’t have to wait until the end of each year to do this – schedule a weekly celebration to remind you of how good life can be!
  • As I have continued to simplify my life I no longer work with elaborate lists of goals for all areas of my life. The most useful technique I find is to choose a theme – a one line statement that encompasses all that I hope for in the coming year. So what would your theme be for 2012?

If you desire a more peaceful and contented life and need some support with implementing any of these ideas please email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz  to set up a time for a chat. The next community call is scheduled for Friday 3rd February 2012 at 9.30 am NZ time. I look forward to connecting with you then, if not before.

When your life is falling apart

The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook 

This book, by Daphne Rose Kingma, is a great resource for when the proverbial carpet is pulled out from under you. Here is a very brief overview of her ten key points – it is well worth taking the time to explore these further especially at times when life can seem just too much to bear…

  1. Cry – holding back the tears or grief does not serve anyone least of all your self. Let the  flow rather than swallowing and holding them back and allow them to heal your sadness. Do something different –
  2. Face your defaults – we all have habitual behavior we flick into when we don’t know how to cope or what to do next. Become aware of what yours are, acknowledge and accept them before choosing how you want to behave from here on.
  3. Do something different – a couple of great question from this chapter asks ” As far as you are aware, what is this crisis asking you to do differently?” and ” What is the new response you’re being asked to develop?”
  4. Let go – of all expectations of what you want to have happen…
  5. Remember who you have always been – your strengths and talents that have always been there to carry you through tough times.
  6. Persist – keep moving forward no matter how slowly.
  7. Integrate your loss – practice acceptance of what s happening. The support of a good therapist or counselor can help with this stage if we get stuck.
  8. Live Simply – by paring away all that is unnecessary we can create the space in our mind and life to deal with the crisis we are facing. It allows us the time to just sit still, reflect and to reconnect with what is really important in our life.
  9. Go where the love is – connect with others and be open to the love around you.
  10. Live in the Light of the Spirit – practice being on the present moment and trusting in a higher power.

Challenging times with Finances

It is interesting times that we are living in right now as many people face challenges with their finances – how to generate income despite the perceived downturn in the economy, or how to manage limited funds in a different way.  It seems like everyone, whether governments, big corporations or small businesses, are suddenly being called to become accountable for previous spending, debt management and results from investments. I think the opportunity at this time, for us as individuals, is to pause and take stock of the financial decisions we have made and the results we are reaping, with a view to determine what our path forward needs to be. This is an opportunity to take responsibility and learn from any mistakes so that we can create the results we want in our future. It can be an opportunity to explore and play with new ways of managing our finances, so we can learn discipline as well as how to experience more joy and pleasure from what we choose to do with our money. We can also use this time as an opportunity to learn how to simplify our lives by asking “do I really need to be spending all this money or doing all these things?” I believe there is a direct correlation between money, time and energy – adjustments in one area will reap benefits in another. So if you’re ready to make some changes to how you manage your finances get in touch to have a chat about how I can support you. Text 0212 4063 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz

Release the Pressure of Christmas – some suggestions and questions

Christmas is fast approaching and a lot of people find this time of year very stressful. As the decorations appear in the malls and the mailers start piling up in the letterbox we all feel the pressure to have a perfect and magical Christmas. There are pictures everywhere of the perfect presents, the perfect table setting, the perfect homes to host and entertain your family in and the perfect outfits to wear. The whole point of Christmas seems to get lost in the commercialism. So how can we survive and actually get some joy out of this time of year? Here are some questions and suggestions to help along the way…

1. What’s important to you about this time of year?

Is it a special time to spend with loved ones, an opportunity to be grateful and say thank you, a time for rest and renewal, an opportunity to reconnect with old friends or serve the community? Are there cultural or family traditions that are really important to you? Write down in your journal what’s really important to you, and set a clear intention to focus only on those things.

2. Create a list of all the things that you feel you need to do before Christmas and then reflect on the questions below that seem appropriate for each item.

  • What are the things you want to do?
  • What are the things you feel you should do at this time of year?
  • If you changed that word “should” to a “could” – what difference does that make? Would you still choose to do it?
  • Is this activity giving me joy or causing me stress?
  • Can I delegate it to someone else or is it something I need to delete from my list altogether?

3. Simplify

I am a great believer in learning how to simplify things and will often ask “what is the purpose of this activity or task?” and “is there an easier way to accomplish this?” Making it easier my involve asking others for help and support, or even telling others “this is what I would like you to do for Christmas”. We can sometimes feel like we have to do everything on our own because we have been unable to say NO or ask for help – however we can learn to take responsibility for our experience and deal with it accordingly rather than blaming others for upsetting us at this time.

4. Take good care of your self.

It is very easy to be running from one thing to the next until we run out of steam. It is much more productive to make sure you build in some quiet time for yourself to relax and reflect on what you have accomplished and what the next most important things are to do. A little quite time to pause and plan regularly will help everything to flow much more easily and effortlessly and this can be achieved as you take time to journal, make yourself some lunch, have a hot bath or lie down for a short rest during the day.

If you find it hard to release the pressure call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to have a chat about what support could be useful.