The key take away from this call on Fri 2ndDec was that there is more than one way to approach life – it is more important that we all find a way to live our lives that feels authentic for us rather than trying to fit into someone else’s formula. Only then can we experience the peace and contentment that we desire.
Here are some of the learning’s from the call…
- I am a huge fan of journaling as a tool to clear my head; however a verbal process may work better for others, so become aware of the “shoulds” you experience even around this topic of taking time for reflection and choose to do it in a way that works for you!
- The process of reflection for the year reminds me of how far I have come, of all that I have learned and accomplished. This can be particularly inspiring, generating energy and excitement to propel us into a wonderful new year.
- Remember to celebrate your achievements. Create simple rituals with a partner or loved ones to acknowledge and share all that has been meaningful in your life each year. It is these special moments that will be remembered by all in years to come. Also remember that you don’t have to wait until the end of each year to do this – schedule a weekly celebration to remind you of how good life can be!
- As I have continued to simplify my life I no longer work with elaborate lists of goals for all areas of my life. The most useful technique I find is to choose a theme – a one line statement that encompasses all that I hope for in the coming year. So what would your theme be for 2012?
If you desire a more peaceful and contented life and need some support with implementing any of these ideas please email email@example.com to set up a time for a chat.
The next community call is scheduled for Friday 3rd February 2012 at 9.30 am NZ time. I look forward to connecting with you then, if not before.
So what did we cover on the Community Call and Inspirations Cafe this month?
In the past I felt that being stuck was not a good thing, so through the discussion I introduced a couple of different perspectives, one of these being that it may not be such a bad thing to be stuck, to feel like there is nothing that needs to be done right now.
I again shared Jan Lundy’s story about how she wanted to write another book and no matter how hard she tried it just wasn’t happening. It was only when she finally stopped trying to make something happen a particular way that she realised it was actually a course that she needed to write and deliver, not a book. Once this shift in her awareness occured she was off and the course was written and launched within a few months. So sometimes it is not the right time for something to be created, sometimes there needs to be more time and space for the creative process to evolve, or maybe there are other parts to the puzzle which need to be in place before a project can be completed. With different perspectives about what may be going on, it becomes much easier to feel at peace with this feeling of “being stuck”
Here is the link to her recording called In the Meantime where she shares her story and 8 tips to manage these times when there seems to be nothing that can be done.
Another thought I shared was the idea that we may not be stuck at all, that progress is happening, but just at quite a slow pace. This is when the tools of reflection are really useful to take stock of what has changed over the last day, week, month or year to help us recognise what progress has been made.
This also draws our attention to our expectations – we can can often feel that things “should” be happening much quicker or easier than they are. Recognise the “shoulds” you may have around being stuck, practice acceptance with what is, so the resistance can disappear and you can start to feel in the flow of life once again.
Finally some tips from our discussion:
- Focus on one step at a time – what is the next step for you to take right now?
- If you are tired – do you need rest, water or some good nourishing food?
- What do you really want to be doing right now?
- Some of the simplest things can shift our energy… moving a piece of furniture in our home, decluttering, cleaning, doing something playful like singing or dancing, reminding ourselves of all that we are grateful for in our lives or going for a walk to fill our lungs with fresh air.
I hope you find something useful here to help change your perspective if you are feeling stuck. As always I am available for coaching to help you create the change you are looking for in your life – just email me or give me a call/ text on +64 (0)21 240 6535 to arrange a complimentary call to discuss your challenge and see if I am the right person to support you.
Dates for your diary:
The next Community Call is scheduled for Friday 5th August 2011 at 8.30 am NZ and the next Inspirations Cafe is scheduled for Tuesday 6th September 2011 at 9.00 am in Lower Hutt. (PLEASE NOTE: There will be no Inspirations Cafe in August 2011)
I am a great believer in what goes around comes around and that how we treat other people will come back to us in some way or other. If we are critical and intolerant of others they will, likewise, be critical and intolerant of us. What I also find is that when someone is very critical and intolerant of others they are often privately very critical and intolerant of themselves as well.
At some point a choice must be made to let go of the criticism – to become aware of all the times we criticize others, as well as ourselves, and to stop so that we can experience more peace.
We need to recognize that we are all only human, and we all make mistakes. Some of the lessons from these mistakes can be very painful and difficult to live with. We all need support, kindness and encouragement when we feel we have failed, so be the first to send a kind thought, to offer a word of support or do something for another to show that, even though you may not approve of their actions, that you understand and have compassion for their humanness.
If we are able to turn our thoughts around and find a way to be compassionate with other people’s perceived failings we will also benefit from this ability to offer compassion to ourselves when we need it as well.