The topic of trust has been coming up for me over the last few weeks, both personally and with clients…
- What does it mean to trust someone?
- What does it mean to be trusted?
- How can we learn to trust others more?
- How can we show others that we can be trusted?
I have become aware that when there is a lack of trust it seems to be because we are afraid. We are afraid that we will not get the outcome that we want, that someone we care about may get hurt or we may get hurt.
Part of the process of trusting is to identify our desired outcome and boundaries – what would we like to have happen and where are our limits. We then need to be able to communicate this information clearly and the finally we need to be able to let go of the outcome and trust that whatever happens will be absolutely perfect even though it may not be exactly what we wanted to have happen. I have learned that some of the best opportunities turn up when things don’t go quite as expected.
So what is your experience with trust? Have you had to learn to trust others, or even your self, and how did you do that? I’d love to hear and learn from your experiences so please feel free to add a comment below. And if you need support in how to set clear outcomes and boundaries call/ text me on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a time to chat.
Part of my work with clients involves creating new routines to allow them to become more effective with their time or to focus on developing new behaviors until they become a habit. The first part of the process is identifying what needs to change and getting very clear on the outcome, so they can then craft the routine that fits with them and the lifestyle they want.
I am currently working on establishing stronger boundaries between work time and personal time. The end of my working day can sometimes be a bit blurry as I allow something I am engrossed in to compromise time that I wanted to be available for the family. I have also been known to sit down on the weekend to quickly do some work on the computer and find a couple of hours have disappeared before I know what’s happened!!
So I am starting to fine tune the routine that I have been working with up to now, to see how I can complete my work within set hours. As I have started to implement new ways of working I am reminded that there is always a period of discomfort when I have to think a little bit harder about what I am actually doing, and it can feel like it is taking longer to complete my list of tasks to begin with. This is just a natural part of the change process and will quickly disappear as the new routine or way of being becomes a natural part of my life.
If you need some extra support as you make changes in your daily routines you can email email@example.com or call/ text 0212 406 535 to set up a time for a chat.