Here are some thoughts and solutions that where shared…
Awareness is always the key – recognise the discomfort that usually precedes something that we feel we “should” be doing. Pause and take note of what is going on so it can be addressed.
Change the word – use “could” instead of “should” – it opens up more choice/ options
Learn assertiveness skills – learn to say no, ask for what you want instead or check in with your heart on what needs to be done in any situation.
Ask “how can I make this something I want to do?” If you can’t turn it around then let it go.
Check in whose responsibility is this? Is it really mine?
Give yourself permission to do what you want to do right now – sometimes this will include doing the “shoulds” until you can figure out a way to let them go. Or it may mean doing nothing until you feel you are ready to deal with it.
Take advantage of the opportunity to learn – when we have something we feel we “should” do look at what the resistance is really all about.
Become aware of different approaches to doing things generally e.g. different business models. I came across a different approach at a business development centre in Northern Ireland for supporting women in business and job share positions, which was once a new concept, is now becoming more common in our workplace.
We need to develop more flexibility,especially when we have all or nothing/ black and white thinking.
Please add any other thoughts or comments you may have on this topic. I look forward to connecting with you all again at the next Inspirations Cafe or Community Call. Make sure you subscribe to receive the theme when it is released.
Do you ever have the opportunity to go away for a weekend and then feel sick when you feel that you can’t afford to go? Would you like to be able to go shopping for clothes, or gifts without feeling guilty or that you can’t afford it. Would you like to know that you have funds available to spend on these things when you want to?
Well, the “not so secret” secret is to create the plan to make it happen – becoming intentional about what you do with your money is what will make all the difference.
There is a great budget tool at the New Zealand Federation of Family Budgeting Services INC. which I have found really useful in crafting the plan of how I want to spend my money. Just enter all the regular bills and payments that you make and remember to include all the things you want to have money available for i.e. the gifts, personal self care, clothes, holidays and anything else that is important to you. It never ceases to amaze me how often we leave out the very things that are most important to us in these plans!! Then start to play with the numbers to see how much you can allocate to each of these areas each year or month that will fit within your current income.
It doesn’t matter how much you allow for each area as long as there is some number in there to show that you are committed to making it happen. The next step will be to then find a way to put the money aside so it will be available when you need it or want to spend some.
Check out my blog on Mon 6 July for information on a new Program I am offering called “Your money: From Woe to Wow!” This will support you in creating the plan and implementing it over a three month period – there’s a money back guarantee so you have nothing to lose… book a free coaching session now to identify your money issues, set up to 3 financial goals and outline how we can help you achieve them. I look forward to talking to you soon.
I have been very focused on achieving some very clear financial goals this year and in the process have been learning even more about the influence of my thoughts and beliefs on my ability to succeed.
There are some very strong beliefs that I have really needed to challenge to open up the opportunities for me to accomplish these goals – one of them was that life is hard, everything is a struggle or just too difficult. I realized that no matter what tools or systems I used to manage my time and money, if I was operating from this belief, my experience would always be that it is just too hard.
However what I have also learned is that as I became more and more aware of this belief and how it has showed up in all areas of my life I could choose to change it. My focus for everything I do is now on how can I make this simple, easy and fun and this is allowing me to transform the results I am achieving in many areas of my life.
So what is a recurring thought or belief that keeps showing up in your life? Are you ready to be challenged and change it?
If so email me now or phone/text 021 240 6535 to arrange a free 1 hour coaching session to help you identify your recurring beliefs, and outline how I can help you to change them.
It is interesting times that we are living in right now as many people face challenges with their finances – how to generate income despite the perceived downturn in the economy, or how to manage limited funds in a different way. It seems like everyone, whether governments, big corporations or small businesses, are suddenly being called to become accountable for previous spending, debt management and results from investments.
I think the opportunity at this time, for us as individuals, is to pause and take stock of the financial decisions we have made and the results we are reaping, with a view to determine what our path forward needs to be. This is an opportunity to take responsibility and learn from any mistakes so that we can create the results we want in our future. It can be an opportunity to explore and play with new ways of managing our finances, so we can learn discipline as well as how to experience more joy and pleasure from what we choose to do with our money.
We can also use this time as an opportunity to learn how to simplify our lives by asking “do I really need to be spending all this money or doing all these things?” I believe there is a direct correlation between money, time and energy – adjustments in one area will reap benefits in another. So if you’re ready to make some changes to how you manage your finances get in touch to have a chat about how I can support you. Text 0212 4063 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
I was asked last week “what is the answer to believing in yourself enough to achieve your goals? How do you get rid of the doubt that you can achieve what you set out to do?”
This question made me pause and reflect on what has been the “answer” for me. How have I achieved everything I have set out to do. How have I become more confident in myself and what I am capable of achieving?
I realized that there has been no quick fix magic answers. It has been a progressive journey of self discovery and new understanding over quite a few years. However, I have realized that I have been most successful when I have taken time out to reflect – on what I wanted to achieve, what could be getting in the way of me achieving it and what action I might be willing to take to understand and work with the perceived obstacle in a new way. Often the obstacle has been myself and the way I think about my world and a gentle approach has proven to most beneficial for that!!
It is only through doing something different that we can start to build our confidence and belief in ourselves. Taking the same old actions will only re-enforce our feelings of failure as we continue to get the same old results. A willingness to take even the smallest step in a new direction will always move us forward, opening up new opportunities or choices which did not exist earlier.
What are you wanting to achieve?
What is the main obstacle getting in the way of achieving it?
What new action are you ready to take to work with this obstacle in a different way today?
Remember that stopping or doing nothing is also an option when choosing what action to take! If you find this thought challenging call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email email@example.com to arrange a time to chat about how I could support you in exploring some new actions you could take.