I was asked last week “what is the answer to believing in yourself enough to achieve your goals? How do you get rid of the doubt that you can achieve what you set out to do?”
- What are you wanting to achieve?
- What is the main obstacle getting in the way of achieving it?
- What new action are you ready to take to work with this obstacle in a different way today?
This question made me pause and reflect on what has been the “answer” for me. How have I achieved everything I have set out to do. How have I become more confident in myself and what I am capable of achieving?
I realized that there has been no quick fix magic answers. It has been a progressive journey of self discovery and new understanding over quite a few years. However, I have realized that I have been most successful when I have taken time out to reflect – on what I wanted to achieve, what could be getting in the way of me achieving it and what action I might be willing to take to understand and work with the perceived obstacle in a new way. Often the obstacle has been myself and the way I think about my world and a gentle approach has proven to most beneficial for that!!
It is only through doing something different that we can start to build our confidence and belief in ourselves. Taking the same old actions will only re-enforce our feelings of failure as we continue to get the same old results. A willingness to take even the smallest step in a new direction will always move us forward, opening up new opportunities or choices which did not exist earlier.
Remember that stopping or doing nothing is also an option when choosing what action to take! If you find this thought challenging call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to arrange a time to chat about how I could support you in exploring some new actions you could take.