A key question is a really useful tool that we can use to focus our minds on discovering potential solutions to a current challenge that we are facing.
A good question will allow our unconscious mind to start working through our stored files and experiences to come up with an action step or resource that can help us achieve the outcome that we desire. Regular repetition of the question opens us up to unknown possibilities.
Generally they are a “how” or “what” question… e.g. “What is the most important thing for me to do today?” or “How can I allow this project to become easy and enjoyable?”
The first step to forming a good key question is to clearly identify what your desired outcome or intention is. Once we are clear on what it is we want, and can ask a great key question, it is amazing the answers that we discover. Check out some of my Questions for Reflection in this blog for ideas, give it a try and see how you get on. I’d love to hear what you learn.
One of the best tools for getting us out of that place of negativity that pulls us down is to take stock of all that we are grateful for in our lives. It is so easy to become overwhelmed by all that is not going well that we forget about all the things that are. We can very quickly become stuck in a downward spiral and this is when we need the tool of gratitude to break the cycle.
So take the time right now to write down a list of 100 things that you are grateful for and see what happens. Here are some ideas to get you started …
- Warm and dry house to protect you from the elements
- Hot water for your shower this morning
- For the ability to walk
- For wonderful friends
- For the food you have to eat in your cupboards and fridge
- For the money you have in your bank account
- For the “thank you” you were given yesterday for something you did for another person
You get the idea…?
To help build your gratitude muscles you can also turn this into a daily habit and end your day by writing out a list of 5- 10 things that you are grateful for. When you first start this exercise it may be very difficult to think of things especially if you have just had a “bad” day however when you persist you will find it becomes much easier and that your focus starts to shift from all that is not going well in your life to all that is.
1. Increased self confidence – recognize your strengths, skills, resources and ability to be successful, not just in business, but in life as well.
2. Clarity and focus – life will become less chaotic, becoming simpler and easier, as confusion disappears.
3. More choices – as you become aware of your thoughts, beliefs and assumptions about what is possible.
4. More effective communication – as you get clearer on what you want it becomes much easier to ask for it – your assertiveness skills will increase immensely.
5. Better time management – by creating routines and structures to better manage your time, learning to delegate and to say NO!
6. More fun and enjoyment in life –by creating a better work / life balance and living a life focused on what is most important to you.
I had the experience last week of having a very busy day. I felt I had spent it all on one particular project, a voluntary project, when in reality it was only about 3 hours. However knowing this didn’t change the feeling that I hadn’t accomplish anything else and that I had wasted the day.
When I was reflecting on this in my journal that night I realized that I hadn’t done anything during the day to generate income and I did not get to my usual gym session. So 2 really important activities had been pushed to the end of the day and consequently did not happen when time ran out.
To avoid this happening again I wrote down two Key Questions I can ask myself at the start of each business day to keep me focused on what is most important in my life. Here they are…
- What can I do first today that will have the most direct effect on my income levels?
- What are the most important things to do today for my family, my health and well being and my business? (these areas reflect my values – the things that are most important in my life)
So what is a Key Question that you can ask yourself at the start of each day to keep you focused on what is most important in your life right now?
I have written mine out on a piece of paper which gets placed on my computer key board each night so it is the first thing I look at when I turn on my computer at the start of the day. It has completely changed how I structure my time and is proving very effective in getting the important stuff completed first.
Let me know what works for you by adding a comment below and if you need some support in clarifying what you need to be focusing your time on call / text me on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org