1. Increased self confidence – recognize your strengths, skills, resources and ability to be successful, not just in business, but in life as well.
2. Clarity and focus – life will become less chaotic, becoming simpler and easier, as confusion disappears.
3. More choices – as you become aware of your thoughts, beliefs and assumptions about what is possible.
4. More effective communication – as you get clearer on what you want it becomes much easier to ask for it – your assertiveness skills will increase immensely.
5. Better time management – by creating routines and structures to better manage your time, learning to delegate and to say NO!
6. More fun and enjoyment in life –by creating a better work / life balance and living a life focused on what is most important to you.
One of the fascinating things about working with clients on personal development issues is the amount of emotions that we experience, sometimes on a daily basis, and how we feel about them.
We all experience anger, sadness, resentment, happiness, joy, guilt and many others at different times in our lives. Some of us even seem to have a default setting which often flicks us into a particular emotion.
I believe all our emotions exist for a reason – they give us valuable information if we take the time to listen. Unfortunately our natural tendency is to beat ourselves up for feeling anything less than happy every day. We tend to judge ourselves for what we are experiencing, making it either right or wrong, and believe we should be fixing ourselves so we won’t feel this way again. And when we handle our emotions in this way it can often lead to illness e.g. depression.
The great news is that we can learn how to take back our power and start to make new and better choices around our emotions – the starting point is always with creating awareness. By writing down or talking through what you are experiencing you can learn to understand how your emotions affect you and this can open up new choices around how you think and then act.
So why not take some time to note in your journal at the end of every day…
- What emotions did I experience today?
- How did I handle them?
- What did I say to myself about how I was feeling?
Feel free to call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org and have a chat about how I can support you to make sense of of any emotions you may experience as you create change in your life.
I had an action on my to do list that I kept avoiding and moving forward from one day to the next for a long time.
As a result of changing how I structure my days and work load I changed tact and wrote “make a decision about X” on my daily task list so I would commit to take time to reflect on what I needed to decide, make the decision and follow up with action.
So now I had a task on my daily list to “make a decision” on something that keeps getting moved from one day to the next!! I would look at the task and think, I’m not ready to make the decision, it’s too difficult to even think about.
After becoming aware of what I was doing I took a few minutes to stop and reflect on what was happening and realized that I needed more information before I could actually make the decision. So what really needed to be on my task list were the steps to gather the information so I could make an informed choice.
Seems obvious now but it wasn’t until I paused and reflected on what I was doing that I gained the clarity to stop procrastinating and take some useful action steps.
So what are you avoiding?
Would some clarity around what really needs to happen help? This is were coaching is so powerful. Email me now, or call text 0212 406 535 to arrange a time to explore some actions to get you moving again.
I was asked last week “what is the answer to believing in yourself enough to achieve your goals? How do you get rid of the doubt that you can achieve what you set out to do?”
This question made me pause and reflect on what has been the “answer” for me. How have I achieved everything I have set out to do. How have I become more confident in myself and what I am capable of achieving?
I realized that there has been no quick fix magic answers. It has been a progressive journey of self discovery and new understanding over quite a few years. However, I have realized that I have been most successful when I have taken time out to reflect – on what I wanted to achieve, what could be getting in the way of me achieving it and what action I might be willing to take to understand and work with the perceived obstacle in a new way. Often the obstacle has been myself and the way I think about my world and a gentle approach has proven to most beneficial for that!!
It is only through doing something different that we can start to build our confidence and belief in ourselves. Taking the same old actions will only re-enforce our feelings of failure as we continue to get the same old results. A willingness to take even the smallest step in a new direction will always move us forward, opening up new opportunities or choices which did not exist earlier.
- What are you wanting to achieve?
- What is the main obstacle getting in the way of achieving it?
- What new action are you ready to take to work with this obstacle in a different way today?
Remember that stopping or doing nothing is also an option when choosing what action to take! If you find this thought challenging call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email email@example.com to arrange a time to chat about how I could support you in exploring some new actions you could take.