Following on from my post on Friday I have become aware that I feel like I am spending of time on a voluntary role I have as the President of the Wellington Sub Chapter of International Coach Federation. I really enjoy this role and find it easy to lose track of time when working on it and as the saying goes work will expand to fill the time available if we don’t put limits or boundaries in place to contain it.
So I am revisiting a tool I use periodically to monitor my time when
- I am not sure what exactly I am doing with my time
- I seem to be really busy but can’t remember exactly what I have been doing
- I have no idea if what I am spending my time on is actually of any value.
So what I do is print out a blank calender from Outlook or Google for the current week and I write down everything I do for a week. I then review and colour code blocks of time to get a sense of how much time I spend on voluntary work, admin (especially email), how much is spent on business development and how much is spent on actually generating income.
After reviewing this information I can then make some choices around where I want to reduce or increase my time involvement and plan my next week accordingly. My intention is create a routine which will become automatic and easy to follow allowing for the appropriate balance of my time between all these activities.
Resentment is an emotion which we can often feel when things are going wrong for us, or when we feel that others expect too much from us. I had the feeling this week as I was driving to a meeting and caught myself on before it was allowed to run rampant and ruin my day.
The main questions I asked myself at the time were…
- Do I really want to go to this meeting?
- Do I still get enjoyment and pleasure from being part of this organization?
- What is stopping me from feeling good about going to this meeting?
I had to remind myself that I always have a choice, that if I was no longer enjoying these meetings I could choose to withdraw my involvement. The answer was yes to the first two of these questions. By thinking about the third I could identify what was causing the feeling. This allowed me to explore some options to make the experience a different one. At that time I was feeling overwhelmed with how much I was trying to fit into my day. As I reflected on these questions I was able to make some adjustments in how I was thinking about what I had to do, as well as letting go of some things from my to do list for that day. I was then able to be more present with my day and it became easier to let the resentment go.
I have since become more aware of how quickly feelings of resentment can creep into my thinking for what appears to be no good reason. However this unconscious pattern can provide me with valuable information about how I experience my world. For me resentment is often about feeling I do not have a choice. Through this awareness I can choose how I handle it – by changing my thinking, taking some action to give me more choice or using a Bach flower remedy (Willow) to support me in re balancing this emotion to be more positive in my outlook.
So is this an emotion you experience a lot? Let me know how it affects your life and share how you handle it, or not, as the case may be! And remember you can always access some extra support with challenging emotions by calling/ texting Heather on 0212 406 535 or emailing firstname.lastname@example.org