When working with routines, especially if you are self employed or work from home, it is really important to have clear boundaries between work and personal activities.
It is very easy to just nip out to do a personal errand which disrupts the discipline necessary for work flow. Become aware of the things you find yourself doing that you use as a distraction – notice why you want to be distracted.
Create awareness of what your habits and patterns are by using a diary to record everything you do and review it at the end of each day. Did you use your time in a productive way? Did your day have the flow that you wanted to experience?
If not, challenge yourself to set clear boundaries around when you are available for business activities and when you will attend to personal or family activities and continue to monitor the result to see how this small change could work for you.
I use a printout from my on-line calendar for a typical week to help get the clarity I need to make this work for me. This template includes all my regular, time sensitive appointments and the blocks of time around these that will be dedicated to business, personal time and family. When I first started to use this template I had to reschedule some appointments so they fit better with my intention to have clear boundaries between work and personal time.
It’s all about become really aware of your patterns, holding the intention of what you want to create and making small changes each day to bring it all into alignment.
Following on from my post on Friday I have become aware that I feel like I am spending of time on a voluntary role I have as the President of the Wellington Sub Chapter of International Coach Federation. I really enjoy this role and find it easy to lose track of time when working on it and as the saying goes work will expand to fill the time available if we don’t put limits or boundaries in place to contain it.
So I am revisiting a tool I use periodically to monitor my time when
- I am not sure what exactly I am doing with my time
- I seem to be really busy but can’t remember exactly what I have been doing
- I have no idea if what I am spending my time on is actually of any value.
So what I do is print out a blank calender from Outlook or Google for the current week and I write down everything I do for a week. I then review and colour code blocks of time to get a sense of how much time I spend on voluntary work, admin (especially email), how much is spent on business development and how much is spent on actually generating income.
After reviewing this information I can then make some choices around where I want to reduce or increase my time involvement and plan my next week accordingly. My intention is create a routine which will become automatic and easy to follow allowing for the appropriate balance of my time between all these activities.
The topic of trust has been coming up for me over the last few weeks, both personally and with clients…
- What does it mean to trust someone?
- What does it mean to be trusted?
- How can we learn to trust others more?
- How can we show others that we can be trusted?
I have become aware that when there is a lack of trust it seems to be because we are afraid. We are afraid that we will not get the outcome that we want, that someone we care about may get hurt or we may get hurt.
Part of the process of trusting is to identify our desired outcome and boundaries – what would we like to have happen and where are our limits. We then need to be able to communicate this information clearly and the finally we need to be able to let go of the outcome and trust that whatever happens will be absolutely perfect even though it may not be exactly what we wanted to have happen. I have learned that some of the best opportunities turn up when things don’t go quite as expected.
So what is your experience with trust? Have you had to learn to trust others, or even your self, and how did you do that? I’d love to hear and learn from your experiences so please feel free to add a comment below. And if you need support in how to set clear outcomes and boundaries call/ text me on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a time to chat.