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The power of coaching

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”  Albert Einstein

 

So how can we change our level of consciousness? 

 

By creating new awareness or insights about our behaviour or thoughts. This is exactly what coaching can do by challenging your assumptions around what you want to change.

 

Why not give it a go – contact Heather now for a free exploratory session

The Art of Journaling

I have been journaling for many years now and find it an invaluable tool for my own personal growth and development.

 

I use it in many ways at different times…

 

  • I record any new awareness and insights that I have as a result of any courses, books or coaching that I am currently working with.
  • I record observations from my day – especially synchronistic events. 
  • I have used it as a place to record those things I am grateful for at the end of the day. This has been particularly useful at times when I have felt discouraged or down.
  • I have also used it at times when I have felt miserable or sorry for myself to focus my attention on those things that can lift me out of that place e.g. Today I enjoyed…, Today I have nurtured myself by…, Today at laughed at…, Today I challenged myself…, Today I had fun…, Tomorrow I am looking forward to …,
  • I use it to reflect on the actions I took during the day – what was the result and what did I learn, with the intention of listing at least one thing I learned that day.
  • I have used it to recognize my successes from the day.
  • I have used it to set my intentions for the next day
  • I have used it as a dumping ground when I need to clear my head and get clarity around what is most important for me to attend to at any moment.
  • Recently I have used my journal as a way to monitor things I want to change – I do a quick check in on how am I feeling emotionally, mentally or physically so I can flick back and see any patterns that could be affecting my ability to make the changes I want to make.
  • I use it as a place to remember things during the day – I always keep it with me in my bag.
  • Sometimes I have ended my day with a question around what I want to know or support I need. Often the answer will pop up within the next day or two.

 

I hope this inspires you and gives you some ideas on how you can use journaling in your life for growth and development too. Remember to use it in whatever way feels right and enjoyable for you. I have written something in my journal every day in the past, however recently I am much more relaxed about the process and pick it up when I feel I want to write or have something to say or explore. There is no right or wrong way about doing this – it is about using your journal in whatever way you need to at any given time.

 

Please share your thoughts about journaling below by clicking on the word “comments” – I would love to hear about other ways of using a journal and how his process has been of value to you.

Resentment

Resentment is an emotion which we can often feel when things are going wrong for us, or when we feel that others expect too much from us. I had the feeling this week as I was driving to a meeting and caught myself on before it was allowed to run rampant and ruin my day.

The main questions I asked myself at the time were…

  • Do I really want to go to this meeting?
  • Do I still get enjoyment and pleasure from being part of this organization?
  • What is stopping me from feeling good about going to this meeting?

I had to remind myself that I always have a choice, that if I was no longer enjoying these meetings I could choose to withdraw my involvement. The answer was yes to the first two of these questions. By thinking about the third I could identify what was causing the feeling. This allowed me to explore some options to make the experience a different one. At that time I was feeling overwhelmed with how much I was trying to fit into my day. As I reflected on these questions I was able to make some adjustments in how I was thinking about what I had to do, as well as letting go of some things from my to do list for that day. I was then able to be more present with my day and it became  easier to let the resentment go.

I have since become more aware of how quickly feelings of resentment can creep into my thinking for what appears to be no good reason. However this unconscious pattern can provide me with valuable information about how I experience my world. For me resentment is often about feeling I do not have a choice. Through this awareness I can choose how I handle it – by changing my thinking, taking some action to give me more choice or using a Bach flower remedy (Willow) to support me in re balancing this emotion to be more positive in my outlook.

So is this an emotion you experience a lot? Let me know how it affects your life and share how you handle it, or not, as the case may be! And remember you can always access some extra support with challenging emotions by calling/ texting Heather on 0212 406 535 or emailing heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz

Delegation

One of the most common causes of feeling overwhelmed is thinking that we have to do everything ourselves. As we struggle through our days with our huge to do list it is very hard to find the space to take a step back and reflect on our business or life.

The good news is that learning how to delegate can create more freedom in our days. As usual the first step is awareness – start by observing how you handle tasks on your list today. Ask yourself is there anyone else who can do this activity for me.

Immediately all the reasons why you can’t ask someone else to do the task will spring to mind – one of the biggest excuses will probably be it is quicker to do this myself.

Learning to delegate takes time and a willingness to do things differently. The driving factor to learn this new skill will be your desire to have more free time to develop your business and yourself.

So how much do you really want to have more free time and what exactly are you willing to do to make it happen? Call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz for support and resources to help you on your way.

Time to Reflect

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and often as we review our week we will feel that there are things that we could have done differently or in a better way.

Yet in each moment we can only do the best that we can with the knowledge and experience available to us at that time. We can call on others for their opinion yet ultimately it is us that makes the decision about what action to take at any given moment.

So how do you feel about the decisions and actions that you have taken over the last week? Are you beating yourself up for not being better? Or do you wish you had handled something in a different way?

We cannot change what has already happened – we can only accept where we are now as a result of the actions we took and be willing to learn from the experiences, so that we can continue to improve and be better the next time.

So….

  • What awareness have you gained from your experiences over the last week?.
  • Is there some extra knowledge that you need to gain and what action can you take to address this?
  • Was there something that you avoided doing because it made you uncomfortable? If so how would you prefer to handle a similar situation the next time?

As we take time to reflect on what has happened and where we are as a result each week we will continue to make steady progress towards on our goals and dreams. For tools and resources to help you with reflection call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or Email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz

Dreaming

What gets in the way of you dreaming?

Everything we want to create starts with a dream – a vision of the end result. As children we used our imagination freely, yet as adults we seem to lose this ability to dream easily as we grow older.

As you relax and start to picture the life you imagine you want to be living what happens?

Do you go blank? Do you find it hard to picture something that you have no direct experience of? Do you start to feel scared in case you can’t achieve this wonderful life that you desire? Does it make you feel sad with the life that you are living as you think of what is missing right now?

Awareness is the first step to freedom – identify what holds you back from dreaming and enjoying an imaginary world just like you were able to do as a child. Acknowledge your thoughts and beliefs and then be willing to let them go. Start to dream again and capture your ideas by journaling or drawing mind maps and pictures and see what happens.

For some help and resources to get you dreaming again call Heather on 0212 406 535 or Email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz