Resentment is an emotion which we can often feel when things are going wrong for us, or when we feel that others expect too much from us. I had the feeling this week as I was driving to a meeting and caught myself on before it was allowed to run rampant and ruin my day.
- Do I really want to go to this meeting?
- Do I still get enjoyment and pleasure from being part of this organization?
- What is stopping me from feeling good about going to this meeting?
The main questions I asked myself at the time were…
I had to remind myself that I always have a choice, that if I was no longer enjoying these meetings I could choose to withdraw my involvement. The answer was yes to the first two of these questions. By thinking about the third I could identify what was causing the feeling. This allowed me to explore some options to make the experience a different one. At that time I was feeling overwhelmed with how much I was trying to fit into my day. As I reflected on these questions I was able to make some adjustments in how I was thinking about what I had to do, as well as letting go of some things from my to do list for that day. I was then able to be more present with my day and it became easier to let the resentment go.
I have since become more aware of how quickly feelings of resentment can creep into my thinking for what appears to be no good reason. However this unconscious pattern can provide me with valuable information about how I experience my world. For me resentment is often about feeling I do not have a choice. Through this awareness I can choose how I handle it – by changing my thinking, taking some action to give me more choice or using a Bach flower remedy (Willow) to support me in re balancing this emotion to be more positive in my outlook.
So is this an emotion you experience a lot? Let me know how it affects your life and share how you handle it, or not, as the case may be! And remember you can always access some extra support with challenging emotions by calling/ texting Heather on 0212 406 535 or emailing firstname.lastname@example.org