Christmas is fast approaching and a lot of people find this time of year very stressful. As the decorations appear in the malls and the mailers start piling up in the letterbox we all feel the pressure to have a perfect and magical Christmas. There are pictures everywhere of the perfect presents, the perfect table setting, the perfect homes to host and entertain your family in and the perfect outfits to wear. The whole point of Christmas seems to get lost in the commercialism. So how can we survive and actually get some joy out of this time of year? Here are some questions and suggestions to help along the way…
- What are the things you want to do?
- What are the things you feel you should do at this time of year?
- If you changed that word “should” to a “could” – what difference does that make? Would you still choose to do it?
- Is this activity giving me joy or causing me stress?
- Can I delegate it to someone else or is it something I need to delete from my list altogether?
1. What’s important to you about this time of year?
Is it a special time to spend with loved ones, an opportunity to be grateful and say thank you, a time for rest and renewal, an opportunity to reconnect with old friends or serve the community? Are there cultural or family traditions that are really important to you? Write down in your journal what’s really important to you, and set a clear intention to focus only on those things.
2. Create a list of all the things that you feel you need to do before Christmas and then reflect on the questions below that seem appropriate for each item.
I am a great believer in learning how to simplify things and will often ask “what is the purpose of this activity or task?” and “is there an easier way to accomplish this?” Making it easier my involve asking others for help and support, or even telling others “this is what I would like you to do for Christmas”. We can sometimes feel like we have to do everything on our own because we have been unable to say NO or ask for help – however we can learn to take responsibility for our experience and deal with it accordingly rather than blaming others for upsetting us at this time.
4. Take good care of your self.
It is very easy to be running from one thing to the next until we run out of steam. It is much more productive to make sure you build in some quiet time for yourself to relax and reflect on what you have accomplished and what the next most important things are to do. A little quite time to pause and plan regularly will help everything to flow much more easily and effortlessly and this can be achieved as you take time to journal, make yourself some lunch, have a hot bath or lie down for a short rest during the day.
If you find it hard to release the pressure call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to have a chat about what support could be useful.