When you are ready to make changes in your life it is really useful to take the time to notice and increase your awareness around what you no longer like or want in your life. This clarity around what you don’t want allows you to be able to identify clearly what you do want in your life, which makes the whole process of creating it that much easier.
Give it a go with some things you know you don’t want right now….
What I don’t want/ like/ love
What I do want or would love instead?
Take Note: The second list is for capturing what you “Love” – not what you like, and not what you will make do with! The purpose of this exercise is all about focusing your attention on creating a life that you love to live, so allow yourself to re-connect with what excites you, what brings you joy and pleasure each day. We often lose touch with these things when we operate from survival mode.
And if you need some support to reconnect with what you “love” when you are ready to make some changes just call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email email@example.com to arrange a time for a chat.
Our days are made of a series of tasks or activities that each take a certain amount of time. We have 24 hours in a day – no more, no less.
It is how we choose fill these 24 hours that will determine how happy, satisfied or contented we feel about our life. (You can choose the word that is most meaningful for you)
As a result it is really important to become more mindful of what we choose to include on our to-do or task lists each day.
If you are not consistently experiencing the feelings you desire then it could be time to pay attention … really pay attention … to everything you think you need to do each day. It could be time to make some changes.
This quote “not having enough hours in the day – stop doing things that don’t matter” on the Be More with Less Blog really summed it up for me.
If you’re ready to stop doing the things that don’t matter and need some support to make it happen call/ text Heather on 0212 436 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to arrange a time to chat.
There will be times when our capacity to accomplish anything will be low – we may be recovering from illness, or the death of a loved one. We may have overextended ourselves and feel exhausted, with our body and minds shutting down and refusing to be pushed any further.
At these times it can be really useful to ease up on ourselves, to take a more gentle approach and choose one, or possibly two, key tasks that will allow us to feel satisfied when they are complete.
The focus could be on self care – as simple as getting outside in the fresh air and sunshine for 20 min, or making sure we have one healthy meal for the day which will nourish and support us physically and emotionally.
It could mean breaking bigger tasks down into smaller, more manageable parts just for today. So for example, instead of doing a full grocery shop, we can just buy what is needed to provide for the family tea tonight, or to make the lunches tomorrow and leave the full shop for another day when we have more energy.
Many tasks can be broken down in this way. The key is to Make each step small enough to be easily accomplished in one day and still give us a feeling of satisfaction with what has been accomplished.
So give a go and let me know how you get on or Call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email email@example.com for extra support on how to make life a little easier for yourself right now.
As we make new choices around what we do with our time or how to handle a task, it pays to become aware of our thinking patterns… “do you feel you “should be” doing more? That you’re being lazy? That you’re wasting time and money doing small tasks and taking small steps?”
Sometimes we need to make an adjustment in how we think about what we decide to accomplish each day or week. It is easy to discount the impact small actions, taken on a regular basis, can have on our lives. So start to appreciate the potential of small changes…
- It is the very act of making a decision and the commitment to one small thing that builds muscle and confidence to tackle bigger changes.
- It is the commitment to regular small actions which leads to changes that are sustainable.
- It is easier to create new routines and habits with a series of small changes than it is to try and instigate one big change.
- As we focus on one small thing at a time, until we can do it really well, our motivation to move on to the next step will increase.
So what small actions can you start to implement into your daily or weekly routines? An exercise class once a week? A daily green smoothie? A clear boundary? A current initiative? Make the decision to commit and see how good it can make you feel.
And as always if you need some support with identifying small changes to create the momentum for change call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
When working with routines, especially if you are self employed or work from home, it is really important to have clear boundaries between work and personal activities.
It is very easy to just nip out to do a personal errand which disrupts the discipline necessary for work flow. Become aware of the things you find yourself doing that you use as a distraction – notice why you want to be distracted.
Create awareness of what your habits and patterns are by using a diary to record everything you do and review it at the end of each day. Did you use your time in a productive way? Did your day have the flow that you wanted to experience?
If not, challenge yourself to set clear boundaries around when you are available for business activities and when you will attend to personal or family activities and continue to monitor the result to see how this small change could work for you.
I use a printout from my on-line calendar for a typical week to help get the clarity I need to make this work for me. This template includes all my regular, time sensitive appointments and the blocks of time around these that will be dedicated to business, personal time and family. When I first started to use this template I had to reschedule some appointments so they fit better with my intention to have clear boundaries between work and personal time.
It’s all about become really aware of your patterns, holding the intention of what you want to create and making small changes each day to bring it all into alignment.
This blog post on How to Create a Meaningful Morning Routine led me to reflect on a routine I created to act as an anchor, or point of reference for my business day, that I can use at any point of the day, no matter how I feel or how my day changes.
I like to keep my routines flexible so I can be available for clients, my children, and for occasional “on call work”. These are the key priorities that I want to have flexibility to fit into my days with short notice if necessary.
A New Year – a new beginning – and everything is up for review…
Including how I reflect on the old year and plan for the new one. How much time did I want to spend on this process? There are many different tools and suggestions available on the best way to do this, and you may have a system that works really well for you. I had a system of questions that worked well for me over the last few years, which I created an end of year retreat around. However this year I found myself asking – do I still want to spend this amount of time on review and retrospection? The past is over so how much time do I really want to spend on it? Is there a different way that I can be with this process this year?
As a result, I found myself pulling out questions from my end of year retreat workshop, which were the ones I felt really needed my attention …
What needs to be completed to wrap up last year? Is there any unfinished business that needs attention?
What’s calling me forward in the New Year? What possibilities exist that stimulate me, generate a hint of excitement or anticipation, or a potential challenge and growth? I printed out a one page year planner to pencil in any relevant dates.
What’s my theme for the year? What’s the one word or short phrase that captures the essence of what I want to focus my attention on this year?
And lastly I noted down a few things about what I desire under the headings …
As a result the whole reflection and review process became very simple. It took half an hour and 2 pages in my A5 journal. If you haven’t you haven’t taken time to think about your year ahead yet, why not give it a go with these questions. It’s all about keeping it simple and focusing on what really matters to you! Let me know how you get on by leaving a comment below.
It’s been a long time between blogs over the last few years as I have wanted to post only when I feel I have something of value to share. It breaks all the rules of marketing and yet it is something that has been really important to me.
Well today I feel really excited, and nervous, as my work has developed further and I am ready to share some of the experiences, tools and resources that have supported me through times of change and challenges over these last few years.
I’m excited to introduce my latest event – a Workshop on Managing Stress. Everyone goes through periods of turmoil in their lives. No-one escapes this, no matter how together they may look on the outside. And we all need support at these times. So this is the purpose of the workshop, and indeed the ongoing Focus Groups – to provide the information, tools and resources that can increase your resilience to deal with life’s up’s and down’s, as you navigate your way through your daily life.
So why not take a few hours out before the Christmas rush kicks in and join me for some breathing space and inspiration so you can make the most of the coming month.
Date: Saturday 29th November 14
Time: 2.00 – 5.00 pm
Venue: Wesley Room, St Mark’s Church,
58 Woburn Rd, Lower Hutt
Cost: $45 per person
Confirm your place now by sending an email to email@example.com or if you can’t make the workshop you can also schedule some one to one sessions for personalized support.
Need some help to get back on track with Transforming your Life?
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Call Heather now on 0212 406 535 or Email firstname.lastname@example.org to get started.
This blog post for a previous event I held in November 2011, when I was running my Inspirations Cafes, has just been resent out of the blue to my subscribers. So even though it has been and gone the theme is very relevant to my new program, called 7 Steps to Transform your Life, that starts on Monday 20th May 2013
I am still really curious about different ways of approaching how we live our lives on a day to day basis. There are many different ways which can be adapted depending on what you truly want to achieve from your life. The approach we choose will also change depending on what stage of life we find ourselves in – whether we are single, in a relationship, have a young family, a grown up and independent family, or whether we are retired. There are many variables and many options.
And the bottom line still is that our life is a reflection of what we choose to do with each new day we are given, and the choices we make around what we do with our time.
So to all those amazing people out there who are ready to transform their lives by marching to their own internal drum beat come and join me for some extra support and inspiration on the next 7 Steps to Transform your Life course…
Call me on 0212 4063 535 or email me – email@example.com to confirm your place now.