February 28, 2011 · Health and well being

The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook 

This book, by Daphne Rose Kingma, is a great resource for when the proverbial carpet is pulled out from under you. Here is a very brief overview of her ten key points – it is well worth taking the time to explore these further especially at times when life can seem just too much to bear…

  1. Cry – holding back the tears or grief does not serve anyone least of all your self. Let the  flow rather than swallowing and holding them back and allow them to heal your sadness. Do something different –
  2. Face your defaults – we all have habitual behavior we flick into when we don’t know how to cope or what to do next. Become aware of what yours are, acknowledge and accept them before choosing how you want to behave from here on.
  3. Do something different – a couple of great question from this chapter asks ” As far as you are aware, what is this crisis asking you to do differently?” and ” What is the new response you’re being asked to develop?”
  4. Let go – of all expectations of what you want to have happen…
  5. Remember who you have always been – your strengths and talents that have always been there to carry you through tough times.
  6. Persist – keep moving forward no matter how slowly.
  7. Integrate your loss – practice acceptance of what s happening. The support of a good therapist or counselor can help with this stage if we get stuck.
  8. Live Simply – by paring away all that is unnecessary we can create the space in our mind and life to deal with the crisis we are facing. It allows us the time to just sit still, reflect and to reconnect with what is really important in our life.
  9. Go where the love is – connect with others and be open to the love around you.
  10. Live in the Light of the Spirit – practice being on the present moment and trusting in a higher power.
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