October 5, 2012 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)
  • Discover your passion and follow it
  • Assume you have a purpose in life, even though you may have no idea what it is!
  • Simplify your life
  • Create environments that support you
  • Practice extreme self care
  • Read inspirational books and listen to inspirational recordings or music
  • Hang out with people who inspire and uplift you
January 7, 2012 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)

What quality would you most like to develop this year?

The key take away from this call on Fri 2ndDec was that there is more than one way to approach life – it is more important that we all find a way to live our lives that feels authentic for us rather than trying to fit into someone else’s formula. Only then can we experience the peace and contentment that we desire. Here are some of the learning’s from the call…

  • I am a huge fan of journaling as a tool to clear my head; however a verbal process may work better for others, so become aware of the “shoulds” you experience even around this topic of taking time for reflection and choose to do it in a way that works for you!
  • The process of reflection for the year reminds me of how far I have come, of all that I have learned and accomplished. This can be particularly inspiring, generating energy and excitement to propel us into a wonderful new year.
  • Remember to celebrate your achievements. Create simple rituals with a partner or loved ones to acknowledge and share all that has been meaningful in your life each year. It is these special moments that will be remembered by all in years to come. Also remember that you don’t have to wait until the end of each year to do this – schedule a weekly celebration to remind you of how good life can be!
  • As I have continued to simplify my life I no longer work with elaborate lists of goals for all areas of my life. The most useful technique I find is to choose a theme – a one line statement that encompasses all that I hope for in the coming year. So what would your theme be for 2012?

If you desire a more peaceful and contented life and need some support with implementing any of these ideas please email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz  to set up a time for a chat. The next community call is scheduled for Friday 3rd February 2012 at 9.30 am NZ time. I look forward to connecting with you then, if not before.

December 2, 2011 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)

As you reflect on this year,
what would be useful to know, to give you a sense of completion and freedom to move confidently into 2012?

November 30, 2011 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)

A key question is a really useful tool that we can use to focus our minds on discovering potential solutions to a current challenge that we are facing. A good question will allow our unconscious mind to start working through our stored files and experiences to come up with an action step or resource that can help us achieve the outcome that we desire. Regular repetition of the question opens us up to unknown possibilities. Generally they are a “how” or “what” question… e.g. “What is the most important thing for me to do today?” or “How can I allow this project to become easy and enjoyable?” The first step to forming a good key question is to clearly identify what your desired outcome or intention is. Once we are clear on what it is we want, and can ask a great key question, it is amazing the answers that we discover. Check out some of my Questions for Reflection in this blog for ideas, give it a try and see how you get on. I’d love to hear what you learn.

1. Not enough information or lack of clarity to make a good decision.

  • What is the decision that needs to be made here?
  • Focus on the Intention – what is the purpose to be achieved from this decision?
  • Identify possible options from there.
  • Am I the right person to make this decision?
  • What information do I need? Is there more information I require before I am in a position to make a decision. Does someone else need to decide something else first?
  • Practice trust in your intuition, your gut feeling with smaller decisions so that you can then become more comfortable with using your intuition with larger decisions.
  • Practice trust in the process of life. Be willing to acknowledge there will be decisions that can’t be made now – there will be steps that you need to take which you are unaware of right now, yet also know that these will reveal themselves as you move further along your journey. Hold the intention of the final result in your mind, keep asking “What decisions do I need to make today?”  and step by step you will find yourself becoming less fearful with the decision making process as you get closer to the result you are working towards.

2. Limiting beliefs and negative self talk. Become aware of the story you tell yourself about making decisions e.g. I always get them wrong; I’m hopeless at making decisions.  Create an affirmation to counteract the negative self talk – I’m a great decision maker. I can make decisions confidently and with ease. I love to make decisions! Become curious with a key question… How can I allow this to become easier? How can I enjoy making decisions on this project? Then create some space to listen for the answers …

3. Feeling rushed or pressured. Create some space when you feel the pressure to make a decision – go for a quick walk round the block to clear your head and get fresh air, or postpone the decision until the next morning. I have a personal rule if the decision is not 100% clear for me immediately to wait 24 hours. After putting the decision on the back burner and having a good nights sleep I often know exactly what it is I need to do.

4. Fear of success, failure, rejection. It is hard to make a decision when we worry about what other people think.

  • Accept it is OK to make mistakes – that is how we learn.
  • You can also give yourself permission to change your mind if it is possible  – sometimes we need to try something out before we can confidently know if it was the right decision or not.
  • Learn to trust that the decision you make, even thought it may appear wrong, may in fact lead to the perfect solution further on. New and innovative ideas often come from mistakes!
  • Sometimes we may know what we want to do; we have made the decision in our heads however our fear of saying it can make us feel indecisive. Practice asserting your thoughts and opinions in relation to decisions, be prepared to say NO and learn how to handle others response when they are upset with what you have decided!

Are you tired?

What’s stopping you from taking a break and allowing yourself to rest? resting dog

July 13, 2011 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)

Red heart“You never know when a part of yourself that you deemed to be worthless will deliver the exact skill you need to make a difference for yourself or another” by Debbie Ford

What part of yourself are you deeming worthless today?

July 6, 2011 · Keeping it Simple · (No comments)

So what did we cover on the Community Call and Inspirations Cafe this month? In the past I felt that being stuck was not a good thing, so through the discussion I introduced a couple of different perspectives, one of these being that it may not be such a bad thing to be stuck, to feel like there is nothing that needs to be done right now.

I again shared Jan Lundy’s story about how she wanted to write another book and no matter how hard she tried it just wasn’t happening. It was only when she finally stopped trying to make something happen a particular way that she realised it was actually a course that she needed to write and deliver, not a book. Once this shift in her awareness occured she was off and the course was written and launched within a few months. So sometimes it is not the right time for something to be created, sometimes there needs to be more time and space for the creative process to evolve, or maybe there are other parts to the puzzle which need to be in place before a project can be completed. With different perspectives about what may be going on, it becomes much easier to feel at peace with this feeling of “being stuck”

Here is the link to her recording called

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where she shares her story and 8 tips to manage these times when there seems to be nothing that can be done.

Another thought I shared was the idea that we may not be stuck at all, that progress is happening, but just at quite a slow pace. This is when the tools of reflection are really useful to take stock of what has changed over the last day, week, month or year to help us recognise what progress has been made.

This also draws our attention to our expectations – we can can often feel that things “should” be happening much quicker or easier than they are. Recognise the “shoulds” you may have around being stuck, practice acceptance with what is, so the resistance can disappear and you can start to feel in the flow of life once again.

Finally some tips from our discussion:

  • Focus on one step at a time – what is the next step for you to take right now?
  • If you are tired – do you need rest, water or some good nourishing food?
  • What do you really want to be doing right now?
  • Some of the simplest things can shift our energy… moving a piece of furniture in our home, decluttering, cleaning, doing something playful like singing or dancing, reminding ourselves of all that we are grateful for in our lives or going for a walk to fill our lungs with fresh air.

I hope you find something useful here to help change your perspective if you are feeling stuck. As always I am available for coaching to help you create the change you are looking for in your life – just email me or give me a call/ text on +64 (0)21 240 6535 to arrange a complimentary call to discuss your challenge and see if I am the right person to support you.

Dates for your diary: The next Community Call is scheduled for Friday 5th August 2011 at 8.30 am NZ and the next Inspirations Cafe is scheduled for Tuesday 6th September 2011 at 9.00 am in Lower Hutt. (PLEASE NOTE: There will be no Inspirations Cafe in August 2011)

 

 

 

June 14, 2011 · Keeping it Simple · 1 comment

It’s OK to be ordinary, to allow yourself to access pleasure in the ordinary each day.