April 18, 2009 · Change · (No comments)

1. Increased self confidence – recognize your strengths, skills, resources and ability to be successful, not just in business, but in life as well.

2. Clarity and focus – life will become less chaotic, becoming simpler and easier, as confusion disappears.

3. More choices – as you become aware of your thoughts, beliefs and assumptions about what is possible.

4. More effective communication – as you get clearer on what you want it becomes much easier to ask for it – your assertiveness skills will increase immensely.

5. Better time management – by creating routines and structures to better manage your time, learning to delegate and to say NO!

6. More fun and enjoyment in life –by creating a better work / life balance and living a life focused on what is most important to you.

Call/ Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz if you want more of these in your life.

April 17, 2009 · Change · (No comments)

Circle the numbers beside each statement below that come closest to representing how true the statements are for you with 1 being less true and 5 being more true. Then, score yourself, using the key at the bottom of the page. This test will help you determine how ready you are to be coached right now.

    • I have some big goals I want to achieve and I don’t know how. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am willing to redesign how I spend my time. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am ready to take action immediately on any commitments I make. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am ready to break through any barriers to achieve success in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am willing to experiment with different ways of doing things. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am willing to be open and speak the truth to my coach. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am ready to examine my thoughts and beliefs. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am willing to eliminate things I am tolerating in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am willing to change self-defeating behaviors that limit success. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am ready to invest in myself to get the results I want in my life. 1 2 3 4 5
    • I am committed to my own personal growth so I can be successful in business. 1 2 3 4 5

Scoring Key: 10 – 20 Not ready for coaching right now. 21 – 40 Could be ready for coaching, email Heather to arrange a time to discuss your results and explore the benefits of coaching further. 41 – 55 Definitely ready for coaching; email Heather now to arrange your first appointment to get started.

March 31, 2009 · Change · (No comments)

I have many clients who come to me for NLP or coaching sessions with “problems” that they want to have “fixed”. They often want a magic cure to make the problem disappear. We can achieve amazing things with NLP, however the client must always be willing to really examine how they think about the world, to be honest with themselves and then take responsibility to change the thoughts that do not support them. Until a client can do this they will achieve limited success with NLP or any other personal change work they participate in. When it comes to “problems”, whatever the challenge, how we think about it can often be a major factor. This is why you can have two people experiencing the same situation and one person can find it very stressful while another doesn’t. It is the habits that have been formed around how they think that can make all the difference. It is also interesting to see that the more we want to “fix” something, the more likely we are to keep thinking about it in the same way until it starts to feel like a battle of wills. As the saying goes what we resist persists. Imagine how different it could be if we accepted a perceived “problem” as OK right now without judgment or criticism. Through thinking about it in a different way like this, the “problem” can often evolve and change seemingly of it’s own accord. So what have you got to lose? If the old ways of thinking about your problems have not changed them why not try something different! If you have a “problem” that you want to “fix” stop for one minute right now and ask yourself…
 

  • Is this really a problem?
  • If it was not a problem (go right ahead and imagine if it was not a problem) how would I be thinking about it?
  • If it was not a problem what would I be saying to myself or to others?
  • If this was not a problem how would I be behaving?

 
I know this can be a real challenge so if you would like some support to change how you think about a challenge you are experiencing call/text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz.

Going through periods of change can be quite daunting for many of us. There can be lots of confusion and uncertainty as we try to make sense of all the feelings and emotions, thoughts and beliefs that come rushing up to the surface as we struggle to trust ourselves in knowing what is right for us.

The decision to change may be ours totally or change can be imposed on us through redundancy, family dynamics changing, illness or even death.

There can be thoughts such as “I can’t change easily” or “I have no idea what it is I need to do next”. There can be an emptiness which can be uncomfortable after making the decision to let go of one way of being in the world, whether personally or in business, as we take time to figure out what next. We may even be beating up on ourselves for not doing what we think we “should” be doing at these times.

I have been creating some changes with my branding and how I present myself to the world and was lucky enough to be able to attend a great workshop with Yvonne De Mille called the Life Transitions. It was designed to create greater understanding of some of the issues and challenges brought about by change and developing strategies to move forward in a positive way. And she does it through her passion for creating art which was really fun and enjoyable.

So what changes are you experiencing?  Do you have tools or support that you can use to help you through this time? If not, call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to explore how working with a coach could help you navigate your way through the journey of change.

The theme for the Inspirational this month was support, however the conversation quickly evolved from building a business into dealing with health issues which can affect how much time and energy is and how to manage it all.

Health and well being is something I am very passionate about and when striving for success in the business world our health can often get put on the back burner. We all know the theory that our bodies will eventually make us slow down to give it the rest it needs if we don’t listen to the warning signs along the way. Yet it still causes shock and surprise when an illness actually happens that stops us in our tracks. And when our bodies let us down we can find that our beliefs about what it means to be successful get turned upside down.  A lot of people I have met recently have great difficulty in adjusting to the changes they need to make in their lifestyles to allow their bodies to recuperate. They struggle with the change in mindset that needs to happen to enable them to make the transition.

The focus for me over the last few years has been very much working with my body and listening to its messages to create a life style that includes the rest, relaxation, exercise and support that my body has needed as I have continued to develop myself and my business. In fact as I reflect on my core values my health and well being would be No.1 for me, with family a very close second and creating an income from work that I am passionate about would come in third. I also believe very strongly that it is possible to be successful in business without compromising either our families or our health and well being – the challenge is getting the right balance that fits with our unique circumstances.

So …

  • What are your beliefs around success, health and well being?
  • Are they supporting you in achieving your goals and dreams or are they getting in the way?
  • Have circumstances changed that are now causing you to question everything you thought you believed in?

If you are being challenged to make adjustments to your lifestyle because of health issues  and could use some extra support call / text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to explore how coaching can support you at this time.

I have been noticing recently a few seminars promoting exit strategies for your business. It is a great idea to think ahead and decide how you want to finish up your business when the time comes, to set a clear outcome. Do you want to just shut up shop, have a business to pass onto the next generation, or have an asset to sell at some point. This is really important as it gives you the long term goal, with a time frame to work towards and it makes daily, weekly and monthly prioritizing so much easier.

Working with a client this week I realized that setting an exit strategy can also work in other areas of life as well. If you have something in your life that is not working for you and you would love to leave it behind why not create an exit strategy to do so.

For example if you are in a job that you hate, or a home that you want to leave what are the things you need to do to reach completion and be able to move forward into something new? Are there skills that need to be learned, are their commitments or tasks that need to be completed – what are the things to be done before you can finally leave it behind? Write it all out on a list.

Once you can see clearly what needs to be done you will be in a better position to identify the first action step you can take and the sense of relief will be immediate.

Call/ text 0212 406 535 or email me if you need someone to support you in this process – I’m more than happy to help.

April 28, 2008 · Change, Time management · (No comments)

Part of my work with clients involves creating new routines to allow them to become more effective with their time or to focus on developing new behaviors until they become a habit. The first part of the process is identifying what needs to change and getting very clear on the outcome, so they can then craft the routine that fits with them and the lifestyle they want.

I am currently working on establishing stronger boundaries between work time and personal time. The end of my working day can sometimes be a bit blurry as I allow something I am engrossed in to compromise time that I wanted to be available for the family. I have also been known to sit down on the weekend to quickly do some work on the computer and find a couple of hours have disappeared before I know what’s happened!!

So I am starting to fine tune the routine that I have been working with up to now, to see how I can complete my work within set hours. As I have started to implement new ways of working I am reminded that there is always a period of discomfort when I have to think a little bit harder about what I am actually doing, and it can feel like it is taking longer to complete my list of tasks to begin with. This is just a natural part of the change process and will quickly disappear as the new routine or way of being becomes a natural part of my life. If you need some extra support as you make changes in your daily routines you can email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz or call/ text 0212 406 535 to set up a time for a chat.

September 3, 2007 · Change · (No comments)

As we decide that we want to change something in our lives we inevitably have to change our behavior – the way that we do things.

When we start to change how we do something there will be an uncomfortable period of time as we withdraw from the need to behave in that way. There may be a feeling of fear or restlessness as we come to terms with the space that has been left by the absence of the old behavior.

Once we know this will happen we can then plan how to handle those times in a better way.

Journaling is always a good way to discover what exactly it is we are feeling and the meaning we have given to the experience. Awareness of the thoughts that are causing the discomfort can sometimes be enough to allow the old behavior to go.

We can also plan what we want to do instead of the old behavior – e.g. instead of working into the evening we can plan to read a great book or spend time with the children. Instead of having that cigarette, or spending money we can plan to go for a walk or tackle a job that we have been putting off.

Once we are prepared for the potential consequences of the changes we want to make the process of creating change becomes so much easier.

So if you’re struggling with making changes in your life why not call/ text Heather on 0212 406 535 or email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to access some support that can make the whole porcess so much easier.

July 22, 2007 · Change · (No comments)

I have taken on a new project over the last few weeks and there has been a feeling of total confusion as I have taken each day step by step to unravel what I needed to know and to do. Then suddenly last week as I was reflecting on where I was at, I had the feeling that it was all starting to make sense now. I was saying yes! – I’m now on top of it and can see everything coming together perfectly.

I also realized that every time I have decided to make a change in my life I have also gone through this process. First I create the intention of what I want to achieve, then I start to take action and all my old patterns or way of behaving in the world get dismantled. This is where the confusion lies because I then have to recreate new patterns and this process can take time depending on the size of the change I want to make, my familiarity with the outcome and the support I have available. It may take a few days, weeks or even years.

Sometimes it can seem easier to give up and return to the old and familiar ways of being in the world when the going gets tough – and indeed, I have done this in the past. The confusion can just feel too overwhelming at times.

So….

  • Where are you at with the process of change?
  • Do you need extra support during this time of confusion to follow through the changes you want to make? Call/ text Heather on  0212 406 535 or Email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to explore some options.
  • Start to create a support list of people you can call on to keep you on track and share your goals with them.
May 8, 2007 · Change · (No comments)

In any given moment if we are not happy with what we are experiencing in life we must be willing to look at the excuses that are stopping us from taking responsibility and achieving what we really want.

 

The only way that we can change the results that we are achieving is to change our behavior or our attitude towards what is happening. This is the hardest lesson to accept – it is up to us to make the changes and no one else.

When we use excuses it keeps us stuck in a victim mode. Excuses take our power away and reduce our confidence in ourselves and our ability to be in charge of our own life and destiny. It is so much easier to blame other people or circumstances – it is always their fault. And so we assign responsibility to something or someone else for our life, missing an opportunity to learn and grow in confidence.

 

I believe there will always be a choice – if not an action we can take, then at least an attitude, a way of being with a situation which can allow us to move forward.

So ….

  • Where in your life do you make excuses?
  • If you were really committed to achieving your desires what excuses would you drop immediately?
  • Are you willing to find a solution to your excuses?
  • What support do you need to be able to acknowledge these excuses to regain your power and make a more resourceful choice?

Call/ text Heather now on 0212 406 535 or Email heather@inspirationscoach.co.nz to explore available support to deal to your excuses today.